But what caught our eye was a comment from Toke Makinwa's ex-husband, Maje Ayida. He asked Mrs Irabor to also share her views on men in abusive relationships. Trying to tell us something? Read the rest of what Betty Irabor wrote and Maje's comment after the cut...
As they left, the husband jeered shouting; "old cargo, you and your children will soon come back begging, which man will look at you?" But this young lady had had enough and was determined never to return. She braced up to become a breadwinner and joined her sister in her factory. It was while working in this factory that she met a man(he'd never been married)who fell in love with her and married her along with her 3 children. Old cargo??? So who was chuckling???
Women in abusive relationships face a lot of emotional manipulation which stops them from leaving. They are told they are useless and nobody will look at them. On their own, they are afraid of the unknown world ahead. They worry about the judgement of society and the stigma of being single mothers. The result is they "hang In there" until they they become profile pictures and Internet stories of another woman butchered by her husband.
Every woman in an abusive relationships needs to realize that being married by fire by force is not whAt true marriage is about... It is nothing short of self delusion to manage a bad relationship just to please society. You have to know your worth and believe that you are deserving of more. You are not an old cargo!! There's life after one bad marriage! Your self worth is not tied to one bad choice you made in a marriage partner. When you have the grace to move on, do move on. You deserve more.